You may or may not have noticed that we are preparing for the upcoming inner child retreat – we nave mentioned it a few times! So we thought we would take a moment to talk about why we have picked this subject and why it matters.
At first the weekend was going to be about the whole inner world, but quite honestly, that was just too big a subject to shoehorn into one weekend. But why the inner child?
Personally we have found that they have so much to teach us, so much of who we are and why we do the things we do, come from who we were back then and how they continue to react from within us. Building a positive relationship with that child can be enlightening, healing and enjoyable.
My (G) ‘sensitivity’ comes from GB 100%; sat here now I’m seeing how that very much links to how I feel I have been judged a lot in life – because of my size (more to love!)
GB acts like Scrappy Doo (as I’ve always said, if you have ever worked with me eh!) for me; she is my defender and the first version of me that learnt what it was to feel. I think that’s where my awareness of sadness, injustice, pride all comes from.
GB also had ‘responsibility’ issues and she felt like she needed to fix everything because she came from maternal and paternal families that were a touch dysfunctional (shall we say!)
If you had asked me (C) a few years ago to spend time with my inner child I would have thought you had lost your mind! I hated her, I blamed her for everything that had gone on, and was embarrassed by the way she reacts to things. I wanted her gone. But over time I have learned that she was just a little girl, she was badly treated by people who should have been better but weren’t. She needs love, care and the freedom that she never had – I can give her that now.
And for me (G) I have to first acknowledge GB and tell her it’s okay, she can ‘stand down’, as the Adult (in theory at least!) I ‘have this!’ She doesn’t need to go all Scrappy Doo on me – she’s not alone, fighting my battles, anymore. I typically hold onto (touch) the rhodochrosite pendant (the inner child stone) that I wear around my neck every day of my life. It reminds me of her and it helps me to connect with her (especially when I am helping others to relate to their children).
I (C) am by no means saying this has been a straightforward relationship, but it has evolved, and I have learned to love her. I have found that opening my heart and mind to her allows me joy that I had not known, as I see the world through her eyes at times. The genuine excitement that she has at things she never experienced.
So, we want to offer the inner child weekend, because we know how important it is. How valuable nurturing that relationship within yourself is. Whether your child is wounded, hurting, or doing just fine, they still need to be heard, cared for, attended to. We invite you to join us in April to spend some dedicated time doing just that.
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